This is probably the hardest article I have ever written because it is so personal to me. I've been considering doing it for a while and have finally managed to. I haven't been asked to write it for anyone and I'm not a grief expert, just someone wanting to share their experiences in the hope that it may help one other person. Grief is still seen as something we shouldn't mention, fold it away in a drawer and try to deal with it whilst not causing a fuss. But, whether we are